Mirror Mirror on the wall. Proverbs 31:30. December 09, 2015
Truth bombs, beautifully written by Kristi Menashe, a Godly woman, adoption advocate, wife, mom of 4, mentor, friend, and newest addition to the TTandTWINS123, crew.
“Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” (Proverbs 31:30) this verse was gifted to me by a high school leader who I loved and looked up to. I was about sixteen when she gave me a little frame with a picture and this verse inside. The frame hung in the doorway of my room for years and yet, here I am….over twenty years later and still trying to transfer these words from my head to my heart. I grew up in a Christian home, I was always told I was “pretty,” and I don’t remember any specific point in my life where I became crippled by insecurity. But it happened. I don’t know when I started caring SO much (TOO much) about “man’s opinion” of me, but over the course of my life…. my insecurities have robbed me of many joys and countless experiences. I have always been one to sit at the back of the class. I like to be “behind-the-scenes” and I do not like to be the center of attention. I would get stomach aches on days I knew I had to give an oral report in front of the class and I skipped classes for an entire semester of college, because the professor would make us read our short stories in front of the class. My father-in-love has the habit of reading his cards aloud, and I get red cheeks before he even begins to read mine. I go to wedding receptions and watch all of the guests dancing and having fun- and I sit at the table. Watching. Wishing that I could pick myself up and let loose. I have never forgotten Proverbs 31:30 and I try to cling to it when my insecurity becomes debilitating. I have often shared the verse with other girls/women who struggle with the same thing. We live in a world that is cruel to us. If we don’t have big, perky boobs or flawless skin…..if we aren’t a size six or smaller…..if we don’t look quite like the model on cover of the magazine, then the world says “we aren’t good enough.” The thing is that in God’s eyes- that couldn’t be further from the truth! He doesn’t measure us by our outward appearance. The Bible says: “For the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.” (1 Samuel 16:7, ESV) He made me and I have often gotten sick and tired of hearing it, but He doesn’t make mistakes. He gave me my personality, my characteristics and traits, and my looks, yet He cares about my heart….my innermost being and NOT about what’s on my outside. The same is true of you! I have these internal battles constantly….I say to myself….’Why do I care what so and so thinks of me?! God loves me! He made me! Why does it matter if they think I’m pretty?!’ Galatians 1:10 comes to mind SO often, and I consider it to be one of my life verses. “For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ.” Well, ladies….it doesn’t get much more blatant than that. I wish this verse wasn’t in the Bible….but it is….and that must mean He means it! It is time to STOP allowing the enemy in….it’s time to be victorious in Christ. We will never please everyone, and I think it’s high time we stop trying. If my sole purpose is growing closer to the Lord, immersing myself in His Word and in His truths- I will not care about what others think. I won’t be worried about what “they” say. When I am walking in His will, I will seek ONLY His approval. I can look back on my life thus far…and I can pinpoint times where the insecurities weren’t quite as bad. Always, always, always…those times have been when I am in the Word daily….when I am calling out to Him….when I am surrendering all….when I am asking Him to work in me. I often picture myself holding my heart out to God, but then as He goes to take it from me, I keep one hand on it and I start to pull back from Him. I often do not fully surrender and I don’t always “let” the Lord do the works that He wants to in my life. Do you do that too? Ladies, let’s just stop it. Let us post verses everywhere we go that remind us of who we are in Christ! Let’s dig deep into His love letter to us. Let’s start encouraging one another. Let’s try to find one other woman to compliment each day! Let’s send a note or a text to a friend, to let her know we think she’s beautiful on the inside. Let’s pick up the phone and pray over our friend who’s going through a rough time. Let’s remind one another of our purpose here! Let’s wear shirts with scripture (wink wink) and wait for people to ask us, “What does your shirt say?” Let’s start conversations and then share the love of Christ everywhere we go. Let’s be authentic and more than just skin deep. Let’s be women who care MORE about what our heavenly Father says about us than what the world thinks of us! Let’s be about kingdom living. Most importantly, let’s teach our children what God says about them. Let’s make sure they are secure in Christ!! I challenge you today….to pick even just ONE verse that speaks to your heart…one verse that is a reminder for you of who you are in Christ. Write it down and post it. Read it aloud every time you see it. Memorize it. Share it with a friend who could use some encouragement. God thinks YOU are beautiful….He made you just the way He wanted you to be…..so delight in that truth! Be blessed, ladies!